Last
update 11.09.2007
at
11:19 am
Self
kindness is the process of simply being
kind to yourself.
Self kindness is merely asking "what
is the kind thing to do?" rather
than the "right" thing,
the "perfect" thing or
even "what will others think?” Kindness
becomes the basis of your relationship
with yourself.
I believe that in a kind relationship,
anything is possible.
We often hear that much of our
dysfunction comes from our lack of
self esteem. Self esteem is defined
as confidence or self respect. People
who have "self esteem" yet
are not "self kind" often
have strict boundaries and struggle
with resistance in their relationships.
Self esteem without self kindness
can create the priority of being
right rather than simply being. Learning
to be kind to yourself goes beyond
self esteem and self value by enhancing
your relationship with yourself.
But there is anger that comes after
the kindness, which always leads
to regret. But Anger is a completely
normal, usually healthy, human emotion.
But when it gets out of control and
turns destructive, it can lead to
problems—problems at work,
in your personal relationships, and
in the overall quality of your life.
And it can make you feel as though
you're at the mercy of an unpredictable
and powerful emotion.
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